Answer by Suminda Sirinath S. Dharmasena for How to get rid of "Ego"

From what you say I think she also might having a ego problem. This arises in conceiving:

• I (X) am better than Y
• I (X) am equal to Y
• I (X) am lower than Y

when in general it can be perceived by majority of people as an external impartial observer that:

• X is better than Y
• X is equal to Y
• X is lower than Y

There are 9 combination of the above 2 which form different shades of ego.

Now when ego sets in what happens is that you think your view or take in the matter is more superior and discount that the other party has to say. Also your ego makes you attached to your viewpoint. The conflicts happen due to one-sidedness of thinking and emotional attachment to one's view. Best is work on how you can approach and viewpoint or argument more logically than emotionally.

Also see:

• Atammayatā by Piya Tan
• Is There a Soul? by Piya Tan
• Sakkāya Sutta
• Nadī Sutta

... which have discussion on ego.

To get rid of ego you have to get rid of craving or attachment of one's views and attachment to be better than someone else in a given aspect. To do that it is best to do meditation. You can try http://dhamma.org or http://ift.tt/1MBhSqV. Since both you and your girlfriend seems to have some form of superiority it might be a idea for both of you to go to a course.

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