When developing compassion do not use a specific person of the opposite sex. This will lead to attachment.
When you think of someone and you get a pleasant or emotional feeling then this is what is reinforcing the to attachment to the person. So in these cases be equanimous of the feeling. This will help reduce attachment. See: Brahmavihara and Upekkha
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